No one in my entire life has ever told me they hope something bad happens to someone I love for any reason whatsoever. I have a very negative gut reaction to the suggestion that anyone might say that. It’s evil!
I’m quite sure I’d turn a cold shoulder and walk away without answering. I would feel very shaken up and angry that anyone wished my loved ones evil. To get it out of my system, I’d talk to a trusted friend who would sympathize and reassure me that I did the absolute right thing and that the existence of such evil people is lamentable.
The idea that I would find God that way is twisted and demented. I’m sure my trusted friend would agree. I don’t know anyone who would even think that way.