Abused by Loving Christian Parents

Sarah Bowman
Sarah Bowman, Writer & Researcher, volunteer at Atheist Secular Humanism

As near as I can figure out, technically “Christian” means only that people believe in Jesus Christ. Many make “Christian” out as meaning “good person,” which I find offensive, given that some of the best humans I know are not Christian while some of the most manipulative and cruel people in my acquaintance call themselves ordained ministers and/or fundamentalist Christians.

Most Christians like to claim that “Christian” means being kind, loving, forgiving. If they are confronted with not being kind, loving, and forgiving, they normally have reasons such as tough love, or being responsible for keeping their kids’ souls out of hell, or having to judge good and evil because Jesus commanded it. The list goes on and on and on. They seldom accept the complaints of their victims as being valid. As one of my Humanist friends said, “self righteousness is cruel.” I also know some truly good people who happen to be Christians.

If your parents abuse you as you claim, you have access to help. Find the national helpline for kids in distress in your country at World Helplines.org.


One thought on “Abused by Loving Christian Parents

  1. They don’t see themselves as doing anything wrong or being abusive. That’s what those other people who aren’t being Biblical do. But when you are following the rules and carrying them out in a particular way, then you are not abusing others. It’s true, nobody finds discipline pleasurable (Hebrews 12:11) but it’s for your own good because those who spare the rod spoil the child (Proverbs 13:24). What they fail to understand is that it’s very easy to twist the Bible to create a pro-discipline theology that is essentially abusive.

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